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Active Listening

 

Active listening is a way of listening and responding to another person which helps to improve mutual understanding. Often when people talk to each other, they do not listen attentively. They are often distracted, half listening, half thinking about something else. When people are engaged in a conflict, they are often busy formulating a response to what is being said. They assume they have heard what their opponent is saying many times before, so rather than paying attention, they focus on how they can respond to win the argument.

Active listening is a structured form of listening and responding which focuses the attention on the speaker. The listener must take care to attend to the speaker fully, and then repeats, in the listener’s own words, what he or she thinks the speaker has said. The listener does not have to agree with the speaker--he or she must simply state what they think the speaker said. This enables the speaker to find out whether the listener really understood. If the listener did not, the speaker can explain in more detail.

Often, the listener is encouraged to interpret the speaker’s words in terms of feelings. Thus, instead of just repeating what happened, the active listener might add "I gather you felt angry or frustrated or confused when a particular event happened." Then the speaker can go beyond confirming the listener understood what happened, but can indicate that he or she also understood the speaker’s psychological response to it.

Active listening has several benefits.

  • First, it forces people to listen attentively to others.
  • Second, it avoids misunderstandings, as people have to confirm they understand what another person has said.
  • Third, it tends to open people up, to get them to say more.

When people are in conflict, they often contradict each other, denying the opponent’s description of a situation. This tends to make people defensive, and they will either lash out, or withdraw and say nothing more. However, if they feel their opponent is really attuned to their concerns and wants to listen, they are likely to explain in detail what they feel and why. If both parties to a conflict actively listen, the chance of being able to develop a solution to a mutual problem is greater.

 

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